“Being transgender has nothing to do with stereotypes!”, has become a mantra we are told over and over:
“Gender identity isn’t about how you look, or act necessarily. Gender identity is about how you feel about your body, your body map so to speak. Gender identity is your innermost sense of self. Clothing, gender roles, or acquired behaviors can’t compensate for that.”
For something that is supposedly so utterly unimportant to transgender people, they sure talk about it a whole lot. This poster says “I think I might be trans”, and reports liking flowers, dresses and butterflies as signs of inner girlhood.
So, gender roles are completely orthogonal to gender identity, but knowing you’re trans because you like butterflies and dresses is completely valid, Then in the comments, we find this: “I am more comfortable in women’s clothing”. People’s “body maps” apparently include clothing preferences.
This website tells us that “[b]eing masculine or feminine (i.e. having mannerisms or interests that are seen by society as stereotypical of one gender) has nothing to do with being male or female (i.e. identifying as a certain gender)”. But this poster, who was unable to deal with driving a “masculine car” while wearing a dress, replaced the car with a car that was apparently deemed sufficiently feminine.
Girls need to be driving girly cars, but stereotypes has nothing to do with it!
According to this reddit comment, “gender identity” is
The brain’s interpretation of sex. As a result of sexual differentiation in utero, gender identity can develop contrary to sexual development of the body. Generally speaking this is based off internal understanding of the body, not gender roles.
Someone should let this commenter from this post know, since they have decided to transition in a desire to fit their body to certain clothes:
It’s all about the internal understanding of the body, and also how the body looks in clothes.
Transgender Reality 