Many people who come to think of themselves as transgender, start out watching large amounts of pornography. Two of the most common types are called “sissy porn” and “forced feminization” or “forced sissification”. Some of these types of porn have “hypno” videos where the viewer is supposed to be “hypnotized” into becoming a woman. One popular site has the following text next to one of the videos:
You love cum. You want to be a girl. Being girly is what you really want. Admit to yourself that you are a girl and go ahead and do something about it. The world is different now. Being openly sissy is acceptable. The number of sissies globally is amazing and growing all the time. Forget about being a man. Embrace the real you. You are a sissy bimbo cumslut. You know you cannot settle with just one cock. You have to have many partners. You don’t care about the risks. You are addicted. You cannot stop. Cock is your life and like McDonald’s, you’re loving it.
For the men who watch these types of porn videos, “being a girl” is a sexual fetish, and it has nothing to do with actually being female. It is a type of BDSM porn where they get turned on by being forced to do degrading things. And for a great number of men, the most degrading thing of all is being a woman.
It is not uncommon for these men to start to question their gender.
Did sissy porn make me trans or was I trans all a long?, asks a poster to r/asktransgender.
I have always been attracted to men as long as I can remember. In particular, I have always been attracted to black men. After a while, I got bored of gay porn and started watching porn with transgender women in it. I started imagining myself in her position. About 3 years ago, I discovered sissy hypno videos, which in a nutshell are flashing subjective images telling you to wear panties, be girly, suck cock, and even take hormones. I became completely obsessed with these videos. Nothing got me off like these. It got to the point where I started wearing panties and imagining myself as a girl when I would masturbate. I personally think these videos just helped me realize that I am transgender. I never felt comfortable being a man. Before I hit puberty I was super androgynous and always enjoyed spending time with girls more than boys. I have never been able to enjoy sex and I think this is due to me being in the wrong body. I have had sex a handful of times and was not able to become aroused (even though they were studly men).
One month later, after two therapy sessions, the same poster is being advised by their therapist to start hormones. Note the references to suicide, both in therapy sessions, and in conversations with the poster’s mother.
Commenters express concern that the therapist is moving rather fast with recommending hormones, and the OP replies:
Turns out the therapist isn’t even seeing their clients in real life, just over webcamera.
One month after that, hormones are acquired:
Did anybody masturbate to transgender porn before they realized they were trans?, asks another poster, and the overwhelming answer is “yes”.
This commenter admits that porn was the motivation for wanting to transition.
A teenager is confused about sexuality and identity.
At 15-16 I discovered “traps” and transgenders, and found myself incredibly fascinated with and attracted to MtF transgenders (and feminine/androgynous males). I then found sissy hypno/forced-feminisation porn and was incredibly turned on by it and indulged in it ALOT. Around this age I also began to have this distinct/recurring thought of: “I wish I was a girl”, but without really knowing why. I began to feel a sort of split inside me: as if I had a male side which was masculine/dominant, and a female side which was feminine/submissive.
At 16-17 my porn addiction grew and I was spending alot of time on webcam sites. At one point I remember cutting up some of my t-shirts to shape them into skirts and wearing them (in private and on cam), as I was way too scared to buy girls clothes. On computer games I enjoyed having female characters and pretending to be a girl (on Second Life especially).
From 17 onwards, things were difficult. I continued being turned on by mostly straight, transgender and sissy porn. This sense of having a ‘boyside’ and ‘girlside’ became more clear. I began to accept that I was bisexual in the sense that I’m totally into girls (romantically and sexually), yet still have a sexual attraction to guys (but not romantic, I don’t see myself dating guys). I knew I had a porn addiction, which was causing problems (staying up late, insomnia, not studying). I thought that sissy hypno was the reason for me wanting to be a girl, and began trying to quit watching porn and repress the entire feminine side of myself and focus on being a normal guy. The stress of exams, insomnia and my inability to quit porn led to severe depression (I was diagnosed and prescribed antidepressants but didn’t take them). This went on for 1.5 years, in which time I seriously considered buying make-up/clothes online but didn’t, and made craigslist ads wanting to meet up with guys but didn’t.
After over 1.5 years of complete hell, I got to a somewhat healthy point where I was no longer depressed, exercising, getting good sleep, etc. I was still addicted to porn though and unable to figure out my sexuality/gender. I believed that sissy hypno was the only thing causing me to want to be a girl. I researched alot about porn addiction and nofap, and decided that if after 90 days of nofap (no porn or masturbating), I still felt the urge to be a girl, then I probably had gender issues and would address them.
Fast forward to now. I’m on my 18th day of no porn or masturbation, I’m getting good sleep, working out, not depressed, trying to just move on and be secure as a straight male at uni. I’m studying to become a teacher and really want to get a girlfriend this year (and eventually a wife/kids). Yet there’s still a part of me that wants to be a girl. I have no interest in stereotypically masculine things like sports/cars, I enjoy writing/reading (dream job is to be a novelist – fantasy/adventure/romance genres), I’ve imagined myself being comfortable as a female teacher. Often when I see attractive girls, I simultaneously want to have sex with her as a guy and actually be her.
I should note, when I look in the mirror I feel somewhat conflicted. Part of my loves my slender, almost feminine physique, and wants to be more feminine. Another part of me wants to workout and look more like a man (to be more attractive to girls more than anything else).
If I had a button which could make me a girl permanently, would I press it? Yes, without hesitating. If I had the option of being a father or a mother, which would I choose? At the moment, a father. But I’ve never experienced life as a girl so I don’t know. I’m trying to decide whether I should buy some make-up and girls clothes online, at least just to try it, see how it feels and see how I would look, then decide from there. But every time I consider it, I think about how impossible it would be – how everyone in my life would react. I’m really unsure about everything. From reading all of this, what do you think? Could I be transgender or bigender? Or just a male who has been influenced by sissy hypnosis/forced feminisation fetishes? Please help!
A severe porn addiction and depression that has lasted for years. Sterotypical views of what “being a girl” means (make-up and clothes seems to be the most important aspects). And this poster thinks that staying away from porn for a little over two weeks is enough to erase the influence it has had. Commenters are quick to chime in with “you sound trans”:
Two months later, it seems that the OP has decided they might indeed be transgendered.
Yet another poster is confused about what role porn has played for them:
I’ll try to keep this as succinct as possible but bear with me cuz this is bound to take a bit of text. Anyway, backdrop first I am a 25 yo guy in a nearly 3 yr relationship & I do legitimately love this girl. Lately, however, I’ve been struggling with what i suppose is gender dysphoria. I’m struggling to figure out if this is rooted solely in a sexual fetish of some sort… or perhaps a symptom of something deeper I am subconsciously trying to suppress. I have been into sissy/tg porn now for awhile, and it has been pretty much the standard for the past two years for me to imagine being in the female role whenever I masturbate. When I am with my gf though, it is just about us I am the guy she is the girl.. my mind doesn’t really go elsewhere except very rarely. I have always considered this being something I could compartmentalize into being nothing more than a sexual proclivity I indulged myself on my alone time. However, now I’m not so sure…
This poster has a “sissy/feminization fetish”, and it has led to gender confusion:
He writes:
I can’t remember feeling any sort of gender confusion before I discovered this fetish (but that doesn’t mean I never did, I just can’t remember). Sometimes I feel like (since the brain is plastic after all) the dopamine release associated with my fetish has rewired my sexual preferences and possibly even my true gender.
He is also distressed by this turn of events and wants to rid himself of his fetish.
As transgenderism keeps becoming more mainstream, and more and more places are codifying into law that “identity” and not biological sex is supposed to be the determining factor for the use of sex-segregated facilities, it is important to talk about this phenomenon. Why are we not hearing more about these stories in the media? Why, when we hear talk of transgender people, are we always told that this has nothing to do with sexuality, but rather with some abstract identity? Could it be that it is because what we have seen in this post is less palatable to the public? We can assure you that this phenomenon is not at all uncommon. The posts you have seen here are a fraction of what can be found online written by males who after years of heavy porn consumption start to “feel female”.
Transgender Reality 
YEP. I think all these lads need to go out in the sunshine and throw a ball around, go swimming, walking, make a vege garden. Escape the virtual world, get into the real world.
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Omg! Thank you for this. I was wondering about the ways that this “I am woman” mentality starts. Makes sense especially with the “hypnoporn” reference.
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whoa hold on to your ponies. “I am girl/woman” mentality does not always start with “hypnoporn” or porn in general. Sheesh people it might work on some but some of us transsexual girls have been like this all our lives. The only reason we finally come out as adults is because we can no longer live with ourselves and just want to be happy. As a child i was brought up by a very religious family and i would kneel down and pray to god. One night and there after i started pleading with god to make me a normal girl. Another time at the age of six i tried to cut off what i did not agree with and ended up in the hospital with stitches. I wore my sisters clothes. I was also diagnosed by a therapist as having gender dysphoria. My parents thought i would out grow this problem. No this isnt something simply caused by porn for everyone. just saying
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One of those male trans redditors state that the “F” they’re labelled with stands not for Female, but for Futa, which means anime dickgirl porn. At least they’re honest.
A famous example of how a sissyfication fetish (which is extremely misogynistic and upsets me as an actual woman) leads to wanting to transition is film director Larry Wachowski who is now “Lana”:
http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showthread.php?t=81049
He was into being dominated while wearing women’s clothes before he started to identify as a woman.
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I think it’s tempting to assume that a sissyfication fetish is misogynistic. However, I think the author assumes too much when he/she states that for men who watch “sissy porn” they are only engaging in a sexual fetish of degrading themselves, and for a great number of these men, “being a woman is the most degrading thing.” For one, it assumes that all people who watch “sissy porn” are heterosexual men, and none are already trans or perhaps women. Also, it assumes that–for these men–what is appealing about this type of porn is the act of being degraded, but there is another equal possibility. Perhaps what they find appealing is that they have an excuse to act like a girl, and the responsibility and stigma of wanting to act this way is removed because they are being “forced” or “hypnotized” into doing it. We have to remember that the psychological motivations that drive people to engage in taboo behaviors are usually complex and grounded in both external and internal influences not always controlled by the one who engages in the behavior.
This isn’t to say that you can’t be outraged by the porn, because it is incredibly offensive. However, be careful to assume that the fetish itself is misogynistic. For many, it is simply a way to give into their desires while avoiding the stigma of being cross gender.
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Thanks for proving our point. “The stigma of being cross gender”, or in other words, misogyny.
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No, you are confusing the issue. The “stigma of being cross gender is not” is not equivalent with misogyny in any sense of the word. The definition of misogyny is the contempt or prejudice against women. The stigma of being cross gender is that it is somehow morally wrong to be transexual, and notice that applies to trans-women and *trans-men*. In case you didn’t know, some women transition to being men as well. 🙂
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And where is the reverse sissification porn about forcing women to be men?
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Simple answer, as far as I know there isn’t any. However, who said there is only one way to deal with cognitive dissonance or explore you identity in general? BDSM has always been an avenue for people to live out taboo fantasies. Who can blame these men for thinking it is taboo and somehow sexually deviant for them to want to be women? Your whole theory is that a significant part of the trans community are merely sexually deviant men (who are also misogynistic… of course). This idea while gratuitous, isn’t new and is really transphobic.
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well, people who come to this blog can read the links and screenshots and decide for themselves what to think.
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Dude, you seriously think you can get away from the influence of porn after years of being addicted to it by abstaining for 18 days and taking advice from reddit users? You need real therapy, not cross-sex hormones. The borg wants you to join.
One of the reason why millenials are so dysfunctional is all the porn.
So, being trans has nothing to do with sexuality and who you love? Great! Please get the fuck out of the alphabet soup organizations and stop parasitizing lesbians, gays, and bisexuals. I am of the opinion that lesbians should break away from these organizations completely, but that’s another discussion.
It is about a sexual fetish though, but again heterosexuals need to stop equating their deviant sexual practices to the rest of us.
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I love that you document all the weird shit in AskTransgender. I see these sissy porn posts all the time. Of course, the men will defend each other and claim that sissy porn is totally a woman’s hobby…because they are so enslaved by their libidos that they cannot imagine a life that doesn’t involve wanting to be humiliated, drenched in other people’s bodily fluids, and completely degraded.
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The only women I can think of who might be into this stuff are the sex-pozzie cheerleaders (overlaps with trans cult cheerleaders) who are so desperate to prove how “open-minded” they are that their brains have started falling out. Even then, I’ve noticed that even the most staunch sex pozzie women will still be instinctively disgusted by extreme porn like that.
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As one of these people, I can honestly say that this type of pornography is scary shit. I’m so full of social anxiety and OCD, that I’ve barely left my house in months and lost my job. I’m only 21 years old….. This stuff is honestly the devil incarnate. I also don’t want to end up like some of these people and want to keep the body that I have.
What am I even supposed to do when the world isn’t on my side and tells me to indulge in this erotic form of sexual anxiety? Hell, it’s only been like 7 months for me masturbating to this stuff and now all I can think about is the road I’m going down. The Bruce Jenner, etc. My first orgasm experienced was when I was 11 or 12 in my mother’s dress as well. You could also say my parents were borderline abusive and I was bullied in school, but I guess that’s beside the point now. This seems to be here to stay.
The world literally wants you to become part of the trans cult. I’m not going to let that happen though.
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One of my best guy friends in high school had what he thought was a secret: he liked to dress in women’s clothes when no one was home. Got good enough at it that after high school he participated in the local rock station’s Dude Looks Like A Lady contest and won tickets to an Aerosmith show. His Adam’s apple and his hands and feet were always a dead giveaway but as long as he didn’t talk he passed otherwise. Thing was, his brother told us about him when we were still in high school and no one was surprised later when he ‘fessed up because he and his wife were splitting and he wanted to get ahead of her outing him. No one cared, everyone still accepted him, and we all went on with our lives. These days he dresses pretty much like a stereotypical normal guy and is married again. Seems pretty well-adjusted considering he’s a right-wing Republican now. You have to give yourself some time, distance yourself just enough from it that you can calm down all your stressing and find other things to do with your life that have nothing to do with online or porn. Right now it all looks raw and immediate and important because it’s still all right there in your face, but with some time and distance it’ll let up.
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I suffered too , depression is the main cause , if your mind is not busy in something good & creative it will wander .
They say an empty mind is the DEVIL’s playground .
I suffered first with ANXIETY , after being involved with a guy . I am the most social guy , but the college was finished and no one new , came up , alcohol , beer even they affect our thoughts .
And the main thing , naturally some people get turned on fantasizing something , believing it to be great , something thrilling , something different , which gets us excited .
This happened to me even though I’am completely straight , extremely attracted to females only , with a very tough athletic physique , manly voice , face and everything .
I later got out again , joined violin class . Kept sure my mind is active doing something good , productive , exercised , kept away from alcohol , made new friends , started working on my singing and vocal exercises & guitar skills , It helped me become really a better person
Doing nothing , living like a cast away from society , addicted to internet , porn & fapping caused all this.
Its like falling down in consciousness & becoming an animal.
Life is great , what you watch in porn , read in description and listen is completely imaginary , it feels pleasurable because you’re doing it while fapping , and are excited sexually .
It affects our mind , fapping your tool and watching that hypnotic vids , makes you believe that doing that will give you pleasure and makes addicted . The more you are addict , the more you’ll watch it , it enters our subconscious easily as you listen it while pleasuring your self .
It’s all brainwashing to your mind . Believe in yourself , these videos are there just to addict you so it plays more on internet and the makers get more money over your addiction .
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The authors second comment is very well said, as is the rest. For some men the most degrading thing is being a women. However is it possible to be a healthy straight male who loves women and might see being able to play either role during sex is just plain hot, not degrading. Good sex is good sex. Bad sex is bad sex period. Why does it seem we have to put everyone in a category based on ones bedroom adventures, or at least fantasy.
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Turning women’s sexuality into a guy’s idea of a submission game *is* degrading. Do you think there is any area of your life at all where you don’t have to lord it over everyone else? Try. Because it’s really annoying.
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A lot of these comments are fucking sickening. Some of us have gone through hell trying to figure ourselves out. I used to be a sissy and yes it definitely degraded me as a human being and is not a good thing for closeminded cis straight guys to see, but honestly, it helped me find out who i am. I might have killed myself if it werent for my experimentation in highschool through this year. its a lifelong journey, but its fucked up to say that its messed up for us “millenials” to be into this. You’re fucking generation set this world up for us. Stop blaming us. And stop blaming people who are self hating and finding themselves. I hated myself. Im still learning to love myself and im still learning to be me. Please stop being so condescending. I am a person and so is everyone else who is in the closet or trying to be themselves.
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Seems almost ironic that men who are heavily addicted to misogynist porn think that they can easily just become women and that it’ll solve all their insecure beta male problems. Nope, its still gonna be an issue for you. You thought becoming a “woman” would raise your status but nothings changed and your still the same insecure beta male. it’s obvious by the way you type.
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“…nothings changed and your still the same insecure beta male. it’s obvious by the way you type.” :))
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I had gender dysphoria before being exposed to porn, but porn may have made it harder to live with. I discovered sissification once I had had a gender related nervous breakdown, did some research and came to the conclusion that I should accept it and not be ashamed. But I don’t appreciate the shaming, bdsm side of most sissification material. I think what’s most problematic about it is that it’s writing a script over your true self, which is hard enough to find already without this sort of masking. I didn’t end up transitioning by the way, it’s not for everyone, happily in a cis relationship today.
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I completely agree that it IS degrading and problematic, however, I think people shaming trans people for being into it is messed up. I am into it because of my own self hatred, which sadly, has partially become a part of me. At this point, it isn’t self hatred, though. There needs to be a line drawn between talking about why it’s problematic and “slut shaming”. It’s really messed up to exclude people and that’s what it feels to me.
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Exclude people from what?
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These trans “women” get uncomfortable and feel excluded from womens spaces because they DEMAND to be acknowledged. They are literally the same sexless beta males they always were and have the exact same social problems but think now that they’ve transitioned they have the right to play the oppressed victim so they can release their misogynist aggression (which they repressed and is what lead them to sissy porn in the first place). They DO NOT respect women. They think wearing dresses and makeup gives them the right to critic women and womens bodies openly. Anyone who watches forced feminization videos is a huge misogynist and “becoming” a women will never change that. They think they “must be” women because they socially couldn’t connect with other men, they don’t see it as a narcissistic social problem that’s completely unrelated to their gender. All trans women hate real women with vaginas and always have. All because they were emasculated at some point in their life and couldn’t fit in so they think they have “lady brain”
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@Taylor
Preach it!
Plus, if they’re in the women’s only spaces, it’s not women-only anymore is it? Because they are men and no amount of plastic surgery will change that. Same goes for porn.
I think the better question is why women, in particular women who are lesbians are expected to give up our limited, hard-earned rights and spaced in order to validate this delusion. Not to mention all the sexual harassment. Autogynophiles are the same men who would hang out in the shadows of lesbian gathering in public places, hoping to rape one as she walked home. The only difference is he now insists that he’s a woman and a lesbian, just like us, and by the way if you don’t let him fuck you with his “lady penis” you’re a bigot.
How does that help us? Oh right it doesn’t. It’s just more of the usually patriarchal bs of always putting men first, except it’s okay now because he has become a woman (except not really). The reality is, you can’t change your sex. Just look at how these men behave too. If they truly had some idea of what it was like to be a woman or a lesbian, they would respect that we need our own spaces. But instead, they don’t. The Obama Administration has gone along with them and replaced Title IX protections based on sex (which, by the way, protected both females and males) with protections based on subjective “gender identity”.
As for the beta males, maybe. The man who wanted to be a woman who destroyed the Daughters of Bilitis lesbian bar organization was not very successful in getting power in male-centric organization, so instead came and did a lot of damage to lesbian-only spaces: https://bevjoradicallesbian.wordpress.com/2011/03/15/bev-jo-radical-lesbian-writing/
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I woud like to speak as someone who experienced sissy programming
Indeed all that i have to say is that it is nothing more than programming, that tries to make you something YOU ARE NOT.
It all comes from porn addiction and the most groutesque aspect of it is that the last step is becoming porn.
After passing through this experience, its really hard for me to say that those people are actually happy. I think they killed themselves, both phisically and mentally, and will wake up one day in bitter realisation that they ruined their life.
The porn addiction is same as heroin addiction to me, and as such represents an issue which needs to be adressed.
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There is a problem of too many people on the planet. How can this be solved? Make the men like men by thinking they are female..
Interesting thought isn’t it?
Do the people who cant remember how they felt prior to this porn addiction realize its because they never thought like this? So its the porn purely which is changing their thoughts…
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Felt like this long before I started watching this porn and will continue to long after watching it. I transitioned a year or two before I discovered this stuff. The aspects I don’t like about it are the normalization of degrading women, like the article delves into, and the fact that most of these videos use transphobic language. The part I do like is the affirmation. Unfortunately nobody makes videos like this that are actually trans-affirming. But key here is that I’m not obsessed with this stuff, I live a normal healthy lifestyle. You imply that there is a strong correlation with trans persons and this porn yet there really is no evidence other than the crap you’ve dug up on reddit, which is a tiny secluded demographic. This is clearly a terrible opinion piece written by a TERF to demonize trans people. The replies and the rest of the content on this website solidify that notion.
Has it ever occurred to you that trans and potentially trans women like this stuff because it’s some of the only content in porn that is even remotely gender affirming? That we are trans because we are trans, not because porn “told us to be”? Myself and most of the trans women I know, knew we did not fit into the gender we were assigned long before we started watching porn. I identified as female in my formative years and had to continuously teach myself to “act like a man” to the damage of my psyche and my peers. This need to “be a man” perpetuated mysoginistic tendencies in myself that I learned from media because I had NO IDEA how to do it naturally. It wasn’t me.
So if programming like this actually worked, I would have successfully programmed myself to be masculine. And any time an institution tries to do that to trans people it doesn’t work. All the research(and there is a lot) indicates that is in, in fact, incredibly harmful.
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” I identified as female in my formative years and had to continuously teach myself to “act like a man” to the damage of my psyche and my peers. This need to “be a man” perpetuated mysoginistic tendencies in myself that I learned from media because I had NO IDEA how to do it naturally.”
We women are female, how we behave, dress, speak, think, is natural for a female. You as a male, how ever you behave, dress, speak, think is naturAl for a male. All of us have “no idea” how to perform our gender, because gender is a prison we are conditioned to live in.
You are a man, male human – swapping prison cells is not freedom. Freedom is you being male and acting, feeling, bahaving, thinking any way you please. Expand what it means to be male, please don’t encroach on our turf, we have centuries of pain and abuse – the her story of our biological realities to work through. You do not share these biological realities. If you love women, the best way to support us is to help us fight toxic sex stereotypes, not re I force them.
Female is not an identity, it is a biological reality.
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The lack of empathy people have for transgender individuals astounds me. Imagine having a female brain in a man’s body and having to do man things in man spaces. It’s not very fun. Plus the idea of ‘expanding what it means to be a man’ doesn’t work when someone straight up DOES NOT want to be a man.
People ignore the physical aspect of it. Gender dysphoria is also a biological reality. Trans people feel incredible pain and sadness having the bodies they do and hormones can help alleviate that to a degree by starting breast growth, fat redistribution, etc.
Sex stereotypes are harmful and surely are a contributing factor to the decision to transition, but do you not think trans people are helping break down gender roles? You say you want to fight toxic sex stereotypes, but you don’t want people transcending across the lines their sex enforces on them? Seems a bit contradictory to me.
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Hi.
After reading this post and the comments I would like to comment it from my perspective. I am man who enjoy sissy fantasies, but I feel it just as sexual fetish and I am comfortable with being a man.
I don’t know exactly in what box should I put my sexuality. I enjoy sexual relationships with women and I have a girlfriend, but at the same time it feels hot to imagine being a girl and having sex with men. But this is only related to sex and I have not ever been in love with a man, and although I am not closed to it, I don’t imagine myself having a true love relationship with a man. I passed years ago a period where I was a bit insecure about my sexual orientation. I liked girls, but at the same time I had fantasies about having sex with men, but this fantasies only turned me on if I was playing a sexual “passive” role. In the beginning of this fantasies I was as a man, but they were more exciting if imagined myself as a girl. I also prefer to have a submissive role in both relationships with men and women. I didn’t know if could actually be called bisexual or not because I never experienced love for a man. Finally I stopped questioning these things. What I can say is that I like women and men bodies, I like sex with women, but also with men only in passive role, and I also like to imagine myself as a girl having sex with men. This is me and I don’t care too much how it should be called.
I feel from some of the posts an urge for the posters for defining themselves as men or women, as if there was something wrong with being a man and having sexual fantasies with being a girl. Some of them were even saying that they enjoyed sex with women.
The point of view I wanted to bring here for some of them that are thinking that sissy porn converted them in women, is to consider the possibility that they can have and enjoy this fantasy without that meaning that you should transform into a woman. If you feel ok as a man in your daily life, but you have these fantasies (or whatever other), it is OK even if you cannot put a name to it.
For those that labels people which watch sissy porn as misogynists I would say that it has not necessarily to be like this. I respect a lot everyone (men, women, white, black, red-hair, blue or purple….). I get excited when playing this role game of being a woman. But it gets better if as the same time is mixed with a submissive role (which I also enjoy with dominant women). I like that feeling of please others, of feeling used and treated somehow hard. But it is just because I like it, not because I think women deserve to be humiliated. In fact I don’t think that people who enjoy being submissive can be considered inferior in any way. I just like to adopt this role in the game of sex, and I don’t consider myself “inferior”. I don’t feel any shame on being treated in that way (I enjoy it), and in sissy videos a persistent message is to be proud of being submissive. So we enjoy it, and paradoxically, I don’t feel trully humiliated when “being humiliated” in this sex context, because I don’t think there’s nothing to be ashamed about it.
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I think it’s important to first explore where fetishes, especially sexual fetishes come from. In general, fetishes are born from social taboos. When a society attempts to stamp out a behavior. Individuals who share that behavior may form a clique where they can all participate in the behavior and share with one another their experience without the fear of judgment. The issue with such a clique is that it creates an artificial local population where it appears that the behavior is more prevalent than it is. A Member of such a group could mistakenly feel that their behavior is within the range of normalcy, and feel less inhibited in exploring further; the group could even incentivise members to explore further than they would otherwise. thus the interest takes on a life of it’s own getting more and more involved.
Enter the social construct of gender. Where society incentivises males to behave one way and females to behave another. If either behaves like the other this is typically corrected through shame. For males in western society in particular it is shameful to have traditionally feminine behaviors and interests, because they are “only for girls” one conclusion that could get hammered into such a male’s head is that they should have been born a female in order for them to be themselves. Commonly the male represses such thoughts and attempts to integrate by assuming masculine behaviors. This male in later life might find other males like them, and within that clique they can form relationships where they can have experiences that affirm that they are girls, and thus are permitted the behaviors they desire.
Transgender individuals and the sissy subculture are two such cliques. One can be a member of either independently, but I think that it’s important to consider that one interested in the sissy subculture or in transgenderism became that way by some means, and that these two cliques may contain individuals with shared means. The way individuals come to terms with their emotions, how they explore them, and how they cope are different. The sissy subculture isn’t shameful, any more than transgender individuals are shameful, and any more than males who have traditionally feminine behaviors and interests. I think that therapists should be a little more aware that hormones are not a magic bullet. Each individual needs special care, and coaxing to find out what treatment, and coping mechanism is best suited to their mental health and well-being.
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jesus… could you be more biased in this? the moment you copy/pasted that WORNED OUT speech “social construct of gender” your whole fascade came down as what it is, someone eager to dwell deep into degeneration and lack of morals, is there any other pillar of wester civilization you wish to destroy? like family or how about religion?
All porn is harmfull and Sissy Porn is specially evil when it comes to conditioning your sources of pleasure, confusing you with inputs of sexually enticing transexual so you become aroused by them THUS defying your traditional sources of please AKA an actual, biological woman, from there its a slippery slope, STAY AWAY from Porn, get new hobbies, dont be lazy at home and focus your mind in being a productive member of society without this “acceptance and open mindedness” bullshit all the SJW keyplayers are trying to push on us.
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I think Alex ( directly above comment ) has really made some great points in her reply. As a person with lifelong gender dysphoria I think sissy and transgender porn somehow affirms and allows some of us to escape. Can some of it encourage someone to transition. Possibly….. it may re-affirm something that’s already there inside. With hypnotism, you can not really be made to do things which are not things that you are already open to do. Porn can be like hypnotism on it’s own. Sissy porn is very powerful and can condition someone to explore more freely. Yet there needs to already be that window for it to creep in and take root. These are my opinions based on my experience.
As for sissy porn or transgender porn being degrading to women…isn’t most… if not all porn degrading to women ? I am a feminist and in no way enjoy degrading women. I do not feel humiliated when I cross dress or watch sissy or trans porn. The whole idea that men may feel it is “humiliating to be a woman” is quite strange to me. I can understand men that may feel humiliated to be thought of as gay. I do not think it is humiliating for someone else to be gay. Just that it would be a rather strange and shameful thing for ME to be outed as gay.
Best way I can describe how I feel when I watch these videos is acceptance. Besides that they sexually excite and allow me to mentally explore my deeper sexuality. Like Alex suggests though there is a feeling of community and connection…the clique. Some videos may speak to me more than others. So many of us have confusion about where one gender may end and another begins. Maybe these lines separating gender are not so strict and clear for a lot of us. These lines are very blurry for me. Do I often wish I were born female ? Absolutely. Yet I have lived 48 years as a man and I clearly am not female. But I also am not completely a man. I have a strong feminine side but I have learned to “be a man”. It’s sad for me often that I missed the boat on the possibility of transition. I still could explore this but realistically I have lived as a man for way too long.
I imagine the reality of transitioning for young people to be very confusing. Finding a reason they are desiring this life change makes sense. So maybe placing some of the blame on the sissy/trans porn is understandable. I do know how addicting it can be for myself. Yet I discovered it because I wished to discover it. Before I ever even knew porn existed I discovered masturbation. Yet later on I discovered the way I masturbated was way different than men were supposed to do it. My early memories of porn newspapers/magazines were where I discovered trans people existed but I had already been exploring wearing women’s clothing for a while before this discovery. I kept it secret after being conditioned by my parents to think that wearing women’s clothing was “wrong”. I’ve been fighting that battle for my entire life. Something that is wrong feels so right…to me at least. Sissy porn tells us “sissies” that choose to watch this type of porn that “it’s ok and normal” to do these things that we have been taught are wrong. I think most of us who watch enjoy being told it’s ok…let go…be you”. If even just for a few moments while we masturbate, escape and comfort ourselves.
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Well I will also share my experience with you. I grown up with single mother, most of my friends were girls. But I always considered myself heterosexual, although I was very emotional and quite submissive. By the age of 16 I had few very short, platonic relationships with girls. When I was 18 I became fascinated with female clothes, lifestyle and everything. Very soon after that I have discovered this sissy hypno and feminization stuff. I really wanted to live as a girl. I have of course tried to fight it, unsuccesfully. Few months after I started buying female clothes, underwear, pantyhose, leggings and even dresses and corset later. When I was home alone I was wearing only female clothes and it was no longer regular fetish, I felt really comfortable and more confident than I have ever felt as a boy.
I mean I was still obsessed with this sissy fetish. Wearing chastity cage, butt plugs, lockable heels etc. But it was just an addition, something that kept me excited. Being a girl in private made me really satisfied on its own. As months went by and I watched more feminization videos and stories my attraction towards girls rapidly decreased. While my attraction towards men was slowly increasing, I really wanted to be someones girlfriend instead of boyfriend.
I don’t really know whether I am transgender or not, but I am really more comfortable in girls role. Now I am 22 and I decided that I want to start my transition, I’ve found a boyfriend who is into trans girls and wants to support me financially and I hope we will make it through. It might sound shocking or wierd, but from my point of veiw it doesn’t matter if you are a transgender person or not. Only thing that matters is if you really want to become a woman.
My recommendation is just that you should avoid this kind of porn if you don’t wanna be trans or have such urges.
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Do you not see why women find it disconcerting that you seem to have a constellation of ideas related to submission, corset, a “woman’s role”, etc. and this is the source of you wanting to be a woman? Do you think the inner life of the modal woman involves the proclivities youve described?
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Okay, so I realize I’m not a typical person, much less a typical trans-person, but I just wanted to share a bit of my personal experience.
I am 28 years-old and started hormone therapy late last year, after actually seeing a gender therapist for several sessions (in person).
My first realization that I was transgender when I was 12 years old. At that time I had not been exposed to any form of porn.
Never been a fan of porn in general, and never watched “sissy porn”. It just didn’t turn me on, and I didn’t like the way that people are treated in the videos. It’s very degrading and just generally disgusting to me.
My decision to transition was carefully considered over many years and had zero to do with any sort of sexual fantasy or fetish. Being viewed as a woman by others does not excite me. Wearing women’s clothes is not a turn on for me; It’s just a normal, mundane part of my life.
I am demisexual and there are only three people I’ve ever been attracted to in my entire life. Two were male, one was female. However, I did not pursue a sexual relationship with any of them. I am still a virgin.
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